The Basics of Family Mediation

Are you separating from your partner and you’re not quite sure of what your next steps should be? You should possibly look into family mediation. It can be a great way to separate from your ex with some professional help. You can make arrangements regarding your children and property without going through the courts. However, before you decide whether this is the right choice for you, you need to know the basics of the family mediation process. Read on to find out more!

  1. What is family mediation?

Instead of going to court to resolve issues relating to child custody, finances, or property, you can use family mediation. Most of the time it’s the first option to consider before you can even apply to the courts.

Mediation is the preferred method of resolving disagreements, particularly when children or families are involved. Mediation, in general, is less stressful and less expensive for everyone concerned.

The focus of family mediation is on the future – how you can get out of the mess you’re in right now. It’s not therapy or counseling, but it may help you settle your problems quickly, calmly, and effectively. 

  1. Who can benefit from family mediation

When parents are unable to come to an agreement on suitable living arrangements for their children after the breakup of their family unit, it is advised that they seek family mediation. You’ll have more say in how choices concerning your children are handled if you choose to use family mediation services rather than going via the courts.

A qualified mediator will make it much simpler for you, your spouse, and your children to communicate and reach a solution that is acceptable for all parties. As long as you’re all on board, the mediation professionals will make it easier to come up with interesting resolutions and prepare for the future. 

During any separation process, one of the most stressful parts is completing all the required forms, such as form c100. You can get help with completing all the required forms from your mediation professional.

  1. What’s a MIAM?

MIAM or Mediation Information and Assistance Meeting is the first meeting you’ll have with a mediator. Though you don’t need to have all the legal papers ready at this point, you still need to come ready and know what to expect.

MIAM lasts from 45 minutes to an hour and here you can expect to find out more about the mediation process. You’ll learn whether this type of conflict resolution is the right path for you and how the rest of the process will play out. You can choose to have MIAM with your ex-partner, or you can have separate first appointments.

  1. What to expect from family mediation?

In order for the mediation process to work, you need to settle your expectations and look at the bigger picture. Family mediation is all about finding common ground and meeting halfway. 

Make sure that you aren’t looking at every conversation as a battle you must win in order to have a positive result in mediation. This kind of ending is better for both parties, and it has been shown to be more lasting. A better result may be achieved by yielding ground on a few topics, being kind, attempting to understand the other person’s point of view, and being gracious in general.

  1. How to find a qualified mediator?

Ask your lawyer for a recommendation for the top mediators in your region. 

The Family Mediation Council’s search engine may also help you in this search. Make sure that the mediator you choose is registered and accredited with the Family Mediation Council before you hire them. Even if you’ve been recommended a mediator, don’t forget to check their licenses.